Being nice is a good thing, yes. Flattering their ego and not offending them is all cool. It’s what we are told is the good thing to do. But the truth is the biggest form of love you can offer to someone. Even if it means looking like a cruel, horrible person. It’s not just about nice and comfy emotions. it’s also jolting them to see what is. It’s being honest to the truth that surrounds you and animates you. It’s saying ‘no, thank you’, or ‘fuck you’ when you feel these things. This is the truth, isn’t it? Truth is all there is in the present, good or bad. exactly the way it’s happening.